Blogging time commitment ~ worth it?

Nearing my blogoversary

Two days ago, I got together with a friend of mine, whom I hadn’t seen in many months because of the multiple COVID-19 lockdowns that we’ve gone through here in Israel. He and I became particularly close the year before last when we took a Talmud class together in the evenings. Last autumn, he decided to continue studying Talmud, and I decided to forgo it.

During our conversation, I reflected upon the fact that I would never have had as much time for writing poetry and blogging if I’d continued studying Talmud this year. In fact, I wouldn’t have had time for this blog in the 2ยฝ years previous to our Talmud class either – that’s back when I was studying spoken Arabic in the evenings. It seems that I cannot deeply engage myself in more than one extracurricular commitment at a time, on top of my work and parenting responsibilities.

Given this, especially as I near my 1st blogoversary this month, it’s fair to ask whether my blogging journey has been worth it. I could have been doing many other things with my time, but instead I chose to write – so does this seem to have been a good decision?


The pluses

Creative fulfillment

I have probably written more poetry over the course of this last year than I had in the previous ~40 years of my life; and this has been wonderfully fulfilling. Writing poetry makes me happy in a way that I had never expected. I feel myself a playful child in the virtual playground of the blogosphere, among fellow poets from all over the world.

My joy at writing poetry has even spilled over into my parenting over the last year, as I’ve noted on this blog. Over the course of this last year, my six-year-old daughter has started writing and reading poetry, and she has asked me to write poems about her to post on my blog. She walks around the apartment rhyming various words aloud and playing with spoonerisms and rhythm. She too has come to appreciate and enjoy poetry!

Just last night, I wrote a limerick about her, which she enjoyed hearing me read to her this morning. My wife, ever the responsible one, finally stopped us after several readings, reminding us that we had to get ready to go to preschool.

Emotional outlet for my grief

When I first created ‘The Skeptic’s Kaddish’ website, especially given its title and the first poem that I wrote, my Mama asked me whether I planned to only write about my Papa, who had died in the summer of 2018. I responded that no, I didn’t. This is definitely what some would call a ‘grief blog’, but it was never intended to be exclusively about my grief.

That said, I often think about Papa, and my grieving for him has been gradually evolving. Often, I reflect upon how to commemorate him, and this blog allows me a forum for my grief-related thoughts. Many mourner feels that they are imposing upon or making others uncomfortable when they share their feelings of grief; I have definitely felt that way on more than one occasion. Thankfully, throughout the last year, ‘The Skeptic’s Kaddish’ has been here for me whenever I have needed a space to process my feelings. Having such an outlet has been truly cathartic.

Also, even when I am not writing about Papa, I see him at the top of this website whenever I browse through my blog. In a small way, seeing him there every day makes me feel more connected to him… not metaphysically, but rather by stirring my love. I may not always write about my grief, but every poem on this blog was written, in part, as an expression of my love for him.

Human connections

I have already written about how much I appreciate and enjoy the interactions I have with other writers and poets here on WordPress, and I won’t rehash that now, except to say that I have come to feel a very strong sense of warmth and community in our shared online space. Thinking about this brings a smile to my face.


So…?

So… yes. It has been much more than worth it to blog every day at ‘The Skeptic’s Kaddish’.

I certainly never thought that I would be dedicating so much time to this website, nor to writing poetry (among other things) – but I am so glad that I did so; and I am so glad that you have joined me on my journey. Thank you!

90 thoughts on “Blogging time commitment ~ worth it?”

  1. Sounds like time well spent to me! Sometimes even if Iโ€™m having a really bad day, a kind word from somebody on WordPress can turn it around ๐Ÿ˜Š

  2. Happy Blogoversary, David! Donโ€™t blame me if I thought this post of yours was going to involve controversy instead of anniversary. ๐Ÿ˜€ May there be many more blogoversaries to come!

    1. Susan,

      There’s something about grief… something about reading of other people’s experiences of it… that makes me feel much closer to them. That’s what I have found, ever since I started blogging about my own mourning experience.

      โค
      David

  3. I appreciate this post so much! After taking a period of time away from blogging and writing in general, i reflected on all the time, energy, and thought that went into my work. I wouldโ€™ve been lying if I said I didnโ€™t miss the late nights and freedom to express myself with the world as I pleased. Needless to say, after rushing back, I feel right at home again(: I will say, the time away did transform my view of self from -content creator- to artist and it feels like a natural yet magical transition.. wondering if any other bloggers out there have felt the same.

    Reading about your daughter reminds me of when my brother and I used to make up songs and poems at home…now weโ€™re both writers. What a beautiful thing!

    Amazing post, thanks for the thought provoking insight!
    Bri Cruz

    1. Bri, that’s quite interesting. What would you say is the difference (to you) between content-creator and artist? I’m not sure I’ve ever thought of myself as a content creator, per se, although technically that’s what I am – but I’ve been doing it for myself, rather than for the purpose of producing “content” for others.

      โค
      David

  4. Congrats on your one year of blogging adventures. It took me longer than that to learn how to blog. I have also discovered it helped me to get back in touch with the poet buried inside of me. I also think it is time well-spent.

    1. Thank you, Mollyโฃ๏ธ

      learn how to blog

      Molly, what do you mean? This is interesting… what would you say “blogging” entails? What did you have to teach yourself?

      Sincerely,
      David

      1. I had to teach myself to not deal with idea of perfection. I tend to over edit everything. When you sit a goal of posting everyday, you have to be willing to let it go with what you have written. That doesn’t mean you don’t try to make it the best it can be. I also learned the value of reading the posts of other bloggers. There is a lot we can teach one another.

        1. ๐Ÿ˜€

          Oy – perfectionism is a well-known foe of mine. Even after I post a poem, I usually end up rereading it and tweaking it once or thrice!

          Your point about reading other ppl’s blogs is also spot on. I never thought of that as something to learn, I guess, but it really is… I just assumed that I knew next to nothing so I might as well see what other blogs look like.

          โค
          David

  5. Wonderful words here, the effects of writing poetry and blogging. I love that your joy from writing has “spilled over into my parenting.” That’s a gift to your daughter. And I hope your joy is spilling over to other parts of your life. I’m glad you’re here.

  6. Congratulations David. You are a brilliant poet and keep up the great work ๐Ÿค. Am glad to have connected with you in this journey. Wishing you many more success years in WP. Stay safe, stay inside ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

  7. I firmly believe that one should do what one likes the most, and thereafter, no regret whatsoever. Thanks David for sharing your beautiful experience. Happy blogoversary ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰

    1. I agree, KK, but it’s hard to do that with so many other pressures in most people’s lives.

      Thank you so much for being here with me โค

      Your friend,
      David

  8. I hear you, David. I think I’m coming up to year 3 shortly. I’ve always written, but I would never had had the impetus to share so much stuff over that period – particularly so with the lockdowns. Last week I went back to work after 3 months: 3 months in which writing daily became my, ahem, ‘job’ – or, scratch that. ‘Job’ is wrong. ‘My work’.

    I came off the back of an 8 day shift yesterday or the day before and I harboured a vague yearning and unhappiness all that week because I had not written a s i n g l e w o r d in all that time. I really missed it. It – being the pushing around of words, the corralling, but also the interaction and reading of some very good friends I’ve met here – friends who I’ve never met but feel as if we are all part of the same gang.

    So, good work!
    Peas.

    1. yearning and unhappiness all that week because I had not written a s i n g l e w o r d in all that time. I really missed it. It โ€“ being the pushing around of words, the corralling, but also the interaction and reading of some very good friends Iโ€™ve met here…

      I’m so with you, Nick. That’s how I’ve come to feel too.

      Thank you,
      David

  9. Over the years Iโ€™ve blogged, it is sometimes the ONLY writing I do, consumed as I often get with current events, family drama, and just plain life. Like you, Iโ€™ve found blogging has freed my inner poet. While my latest novel languishes, Iโ€™ve still been able to enjoy the crafting of images and allusions via poetry. Mazel tov on the anniversary!

  10. I am glad that I found your blog, and its content. Thank you for your writings, and for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. -Lorri

  11. While you and I are so very different, I am always finding your posts reflecting the common resonating thread of deep reverence and appreciation of those dynamic organic facets and phases of emotions defining the movement of our lives. Thank you for sharing your writing ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. deep reverence and appreciation of those dynamic organic facets and phases of emotions defining the movement of our lives.

      H.,

      Wow, thank you! I feel like you’re ascribing entirely too much depth to me!

      ๐Ÿ˜ณ
      David

  12. My poems are so often filled with a touch of sorrow and pain which still flows from my childhood. We all know that some of the most gifted poets, artist and great writers do write about their grief and they didn’t apologize for it either. I am finding that many poets fill badly about writing about grief or pain, this I do not understand and no judgement intended either as I am sure they have a reason that makes sense to them. I will continue to write about my lost childhood, my sexual abuse and anything else I wish to express. I am an extremely honest person. My bosses use to tell me I needed to hold that honesty back a bit. I don’t mean being harsh or unkind I mean speaking out when an injustice was seen in the work place by me. If we can’t share our grief and our sorrows with our sisters and brothers on the blog where can we?

    ืชืžืฉื™ืš ืœื—ืœื•ืง ืืช ื”ืฆืขืจ ืฉืœืš, ืืช ื”ืจื’ืฉื•ืช ื”ืคื ื™ืžื™ื™ื ื‘ื™ื•ืชืจ ืฉืœืš ืื ืžืชื—ืฉืง ืœืš.ื’ื ื‘ืŸ ืื—ื“ ื”ืžืฉื•ืจืจื™ื ื”ืื”ื•ื‘ื™ื ืขืœื™ื™ ื”ืคืกื™ืง ืœื›ืชื•ื‘ ื›ื™ ื”ื™ื ื”ืจื’ื™ืฉื” ืฉื”ื›ืชื™ื‘ื” ืฉืœื” ืขืฆื•ื‘ื” ืžื“ื™.ืื ื™ ืงื•ืจื ืืช ื”ื‘ืœื•ื’ ืฉืœื” ืื—ื•ืจื” ื•ื”ื™ื ืžื“ื”ื™ืžื”.ืงื•ืจืื™ื ืœื” ืจื™ื™ืฆ’ืœ ื•ื”ืืชืจ ืฉืœื” inmindandout.home.blog – such a brilliant writer

    1. I am an extremely honest person. My bosses use to tell me I needed to hold that honesty back a bit.

      Joni, my mother and my wife are exactly the same way! I’ve been living with people like that all my life ๐Ÿ˜€

      โค
      David

      1. Well I can tell you appreciate honesty then. Honesty to me is a blessing. Thank you for sharing that. I can tell I would love your family too. You are blessed and you are blessings others with your words too.

        โค๏ธ
        Joni

  13. Happy blogoversary! As a blogging newbie, I’m pretty astounded at your productivity – and how cool that you’re instilling a love of poetry in your daughter while you’re at it.

  14. I think it’s wonderful that you are maintaining the close bond with your dad through your blog, and that your little girl is catching the ‘literary bug’ from you. ๐Ÿ˜€
    I enjoy your writing very much, David!

  15. I think this speaks to a larger question about the value of time (and in some cases money) spent on hobbies.
    I don’t tell people how much time and yes, money, I spent while I was in the competitive karaoke league (drinks at the bar really add up…) because it sounds embarrassing, but the truth is, one should never be embarrassed about investing in something they love to do because it brings them joy. And at least in the case of blogging you a) spend less money than I did on overpriced drinks and b) bring other people in the blogging community, such as myself, joy as well in connecting with them.

  16. I took a creativity class online and the instructor told us one of the ways we become more creative is when we try new things. Keep going!

    1. I didn’t even know that such a thing as a creativity class existed, Rhonda. What would you say were the most valuable take-aways for you?

      Shavua tov,
      David

      1. A study showed that creativity decreased significantly as we go from childhood to adulthood. That’s because our educational system, and the way we’re raised, emphasizes ‘convergent’ thinking rather than ‘divergent’ thinking. That means we’re taught to focus on a specific solution to a problem rather than explore a variety of solutions and then pick the best one. The instructor taught that to be more creative in any field, we have to live ‘creatively’. That means changing our lifestyle to learn new things and get out of our comfort zone. It can be as simple as sometimes walking backwards or writing with the non-dominant hand. Getting out of a routine. He emphasized that being more creative won’t happen overnight, but if we live our lives a bit different, we’ll see a difference over time. Sorry for the long explanation. I just really liked the class.

  17. I use my blog as an outlet and a means to inform others about some things that I go through. I don’t expect many people to read it so I am extremely honest. I don’t commit time to it and I think I should at least do one a week but sometimes, when something is really heavy on my mind, I HAVE to say something. But this is a good form of therapy. I look forward to reading more of your works.

    1. Thanks for responding and sharing, Kendra. One of the things that makes it easier for me to post often is that I post a lot of poetry, which is shorter than blog posts.

      โค
      David

  18. Happy blogging anniversary! Poetry is an activity that I find allows me to process the world and at the same time express myself in ways both universal and personal. I’m so glad I followed your blog!

  19. I always appreciate your words David. It’s hard to find a balance for all we could and want to do with our lives. I’m still trying to figure it out myself. (K)

  20. I just discovered your blog. I appreciate that a sad event was a catalyst for this space of creative expression. For me, blogging, writing and art in general really provides a much-needed outlet for those emotions swirling around on the inside.

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