Six, or: Sixteen

A naani

took my little girl to a birthday party
she would be excited
about the makeup booth

55 thoughts on “Six, or: Sixteen”

  1. Breathe before reading – again, this makes me uncomfortable, here I can put my finger on something: it is not about your girl’s excitement but it seems to me that by not putting it into a grown-up context or frame you are almost appearing as advocating a kind-of sexualisation of young girls.

    1. I don’t quite follow… what would the grown-up context be? she went to a children’s birthday party – it was a make-up activity for children. Personally, it’s not something that I’m into or encourage, but she likes it so I let her do it.


  2. So many subtle messages in our society to help our children navigate. Balancing their fun with building their inner self is always a process. I am glad she has you both to help her navigate through this world. She sounds pretty sweet and your love for her very clear. ๐Ÿ’—

  3. I’m glad my children did not attend any parties like that. Girls get pushed in culturally approved directions too soon as it is. It’s funny, I was just thinking today about the marked difference in my personality once I turned 12 and was expected to conform to female behavior. I liked myself much better before. (K)

    1. yeah – it’s clearly a mark of her interactions with other girls at kindergarten / preschool – she wasn’t like this just a couple years ago…

  4. The beautiful and perfect princess life, good that the birthday parties are on again ๐Ÿ™‚ the chance for an on spot makeup and some tattoos – don’t know if you have the tattoo artists in the parties there David, the parties here all seem to have a tattoo artist who draws little flowers and butterflies on the children.

  5. When I was six, I watched my mother put on makeup. I was never interested until I was a teen… Seems little girls are growing up much faster. I’m not sure if it is a result of peer pressure or a societal influence via TV and other media….

    1. Muri, it’s interesting – my wife doesn’t much like or wear makeup – so it’s interesting that our daughter does. On the other hand, my mother-in-law does like makeup and nail polish in particular – so it’s always a blast for our daughter when her maternal grandmother comes to visit ๐Ÿ˜€

      Shabbat shalom,

        1. I think tattoos can be very cool, but they’re against Jewish tradition – she won’t get much support from me if she wants to get one ๐Ÿ™‚

      1. hey David, that would be a thing – try and tell your daughter if she wants make up she has to have a piercing and a tattoo for balance. And you get to choose the motif for the tattoo. That should be an interesting discussion, as clued up as your daughter sounds. ๐Ÿ™‚

          1. oops – so where’s the difference to make-up then? (old woman with specs scratching her head), religiously spoken?

          2. not sure what to tell you. it seems like a major difference to me. a tattoo is considered “changing the body given to you by God” for religious Jewish people.

          3. yup I gather that – only if you’re religious the impermanence of the body is more a theme than not, so -…

          4. the way I’ve heard rabbis put it is that we should return our bodies to God the way he gave them to us – without marking them up.

            I don’t really care about the reasoning so much, and I’m not really sure there is much reasoning per se… but it’s been a Jewish tradition for-pretty much-ever.

            if you ever see an Orthodox Jewish with a tattoo, which is highly unlikely, it means that Orthodox Jew was not always Orthodox – either a convert to Judaism or a non-Orthodox Jew in a prior life.

          1. I kind of assumed that after a while. I understand. I’m not a parent, but I have a children’s book and work with kids in a church context. So far, I haven’t posted photos of the kids in my life and wouldn’t without parents’ permission.

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