I think this is a brand newset of virtual magnets because I noticed it for the very first time tonight when I visited the Magnetic Poetry website!
I once again opted for a tanka, rather than a haiku;
The extra two lines (14 syllables) provide a greater challenge, as well as a larger canvas;
This particular poem is something of a reflection on my memories of my parents and my childhood in the context of my Papa’s death nearly three years ago;
I searched for and found the featured image only after I had written the entire tanka.
Seeing mermaid denuded made my cheeks blush,
As smart, sparkling eyes spied its hairbrush;
To my abundant wonder,
She reimagined her plunder;
Giggling, she declared the new mer-brush.
Respond to your children with love in their worst moments, their broken moments, their angry moments, their selfish moments, their lonely moments, their frustrated moments, their inconvenient moments; because it is in their most unlovable human moments that they most need to feel loved.
Past twestif, all the nochky kreets
Did stwirk and smiggle in the glood:
All thungry were the zilligeets,
And the narvips twitwoo’d.
“Acquire that Wocky’s head, I must-
Those jaws that bit- from he who fought!
Acquire its head, upending trust,
As none were there to see it caught!”
With gobsack slung upon his back,
And sparing innish lad no thought
Who “Callay!” murmured in his dreams,
Grim trophy found that he had sought.
And, as thrilated there he stood,
The groary sire, of same surname,
Came ‘pon him in dishmardened room,
Exhuffling as he came!
One, two! One, two! And through and through
The vorpal blade went snicker-snack!
Fool thief fell dead, and then his head
Fell ‘pon his fuffed gobsack.
“My boy was he who slew the ‘wock!
He’s earned the Queen of Heart’s reward!
Arrogous crook! Gitfoo! Gitfook!”
Leaned, spent, upon the bloory sword.
Past twestif, all the nochky kreets
Did stwirk and smiggle in the glood:
All thungry were the zilligeets,
And the narvips twitwoo’d.
I couldn’t tell you what what possessed me to write this, exactly, but I had been playing with words and meanings in poetry, trying to find my voice… and that day, I found myself reciting the original ‘Jabberwocky’ poem to myself, wondering if I too couldn’t tell a story with my very own nonsense words.
It was harder than I’d expected to “find” words that both sounded good and carried their intended meanings well enough.
Anyway, the poem above was my result.
The original ‘Jabberwocky’
by Lewis Carroll
’Twas brillig, and the slithy toves
Did gyre and gimble in the wabe:
All mimsy were the borogoves,
And the mome raths outgrabe.
“Beware the Jabberwock, my son!
The jaws that bite, the claws that catch!
Beware the Jubjub bird, and shun
The frumious Bandersnatch!”
He took his vorpal sword in hand;
Long time the manxome foe he sought—
So rested he by the Tumtum tree
And stood awhile in thought.
And, as in uffish thought he stood,
The Jabberwock, with eyes of flame,
Came whiffling through the tulgey wood,
And burbled as it came!
One, two! One, two! And through and through
The vorpal blade went snicker-snack!
He left it dead, and with its head
He went galumphing back.
“And hast thou slain the Jabberwock?
Come to my arms, my beamish boy!
O frabjous day! Callooh! Callay!”
He chortled in his joy.
’Twas brillig, and the slithy toves
Did gyre and gimble in the wabe:
All mimsy were the borogoves,
And the mome raths outgrabe.
Girl, from the first it's been true
your sweetness surpassed all who
poop, cry and coo, as babes do.
Watching you skip at the zoo;
you bathing, smearing shampoo;
laughing at Winnie the Pooh...
Since the hour that you were born,
every morn, faith soars anew.
I’ve been thinking of writing an ethical will entry on education for some time now, but it’s been challenging for me to begin. For me, there are three obstacles:
The strong personal association I draw between Judaism and placing a high value on education, which I worry may come across as off-putting to some;
Not relating to many of the traditional Jewish source texts on education;
My personal experiences with [higher] education, which did not [ultimately] serve me well, as a result of my poor decision-making.
Fortuitously, I recently came across a short talk by Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sackszt”l on Animalizard’s blog, which gave me the language I needed to overcome that first internal barrier, and this, in turn, gave me the motivation to push through the others.
Jews and education
This is the part that makes me uncomfortable to share, but it will, in part, showing you where I am coming from.
Jews, as a religious group, really, really, really prioritize education, and this has been true throughout our history (as far as I know). The ‘People of the Book’ have long valued literacy. It feels haughty to me to make mention of this, but it’s simply true, even in the modern day. In 2016, the Pew Research Center published its study on ‘Religion and Education Around the World’, which found that:
When measured by years of formal schooling, Jews have the highest average educational attainment, while Muslims and Hindus have the lowest. Christians have the second highest average years of schooling, followed by religiously unaffiliated adults and then Buddhists.
This cultural emphasis on education played a major part in my upbringing. My father and mother were both highly educated, well read and sophisticated, as was most of our extended family on either side. I grew up fully expecting that college and graduate school awaited me after high school. In my mind, it was only a matter of deciding whether to be a doctor, lawyer, professor or engineer.
A joke to lighten [the/my] mood
This reminds me of a classic Jewish joke, which some of you may be already familiar with:
The First Jewish President
The first Jewish president calls up his mother and invites her over for Passover. Characteristically, his mother immediately begins complaining.
“Oy, I’ll need to book a flight and it’s going to cost so much – it is just too much of a bother.” Her son counters, “Mom! I’m the President! I’ll hire a private jet for you!” “Oy, I’ll need to catch a taxi and carry my luggage. It’s just too much!” “Mom! I’m the President! I’ll pick you up in my limo! Then my guards will carry your luggage for you!” “Oy, I’ll need to book a hotel.” “Mom! Don’t be ridiculous! I’m the President! You can stay at the White House!” “Okay, fine,”she finally acquiesces.
Two minutes later her friend Sophie calls. “So, Miriam, what’s new?” “Oy, I’m going to my son for Passover.” “Who, the doctor?” “No, the other one.”
Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks zt”l on being Jewish
An important clarification
I am a Jew, not because I believe that Judaism contains all there is of the human story. I admire other traditions and their contributions to the world… Nor is it because I think that Jews are better than others, more intelligent, creative, generous, or successful…
These words can be heard spoken by Rabbi Sacks zt”l in the video below.
‘Why I am a Jew’ by Rabbi Jonathan Sacks zt”l
Education as a sacred task
Among the many reasons (and I do suggest that you watch the video in its entirety) that Rabbi Sacks zt”l gives for his being Jewish is this one, which resonates deeply with me:
Jews, though they lacked all else, never ceased to value education as a sacred task, endowing the individual with dignity and depth…
It’s not a matter of my people being better than another. It’s a matter, as Rabbi Sacks zt”l aptly puts it, of that which is uniquely my people’s:
I admire other civilizations and traditions; I believe each has brought something special into the world… but this is ours.
Jewish source texts
Some that don’t work for me…
As you may imagine, there are a lot of ancient Jewish sources that deal with education, particularly in relation to a father educating his son, and with a particular emphasis on discipline and ‘not sparing the rod’. For example, Proverb 13:24:
He who spares the rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him early.
Color me modern, but I would never lift a hand against any child of mine; and beyond that, I fundamentally reject the Bible’s expectations of a child, as stated quite plainly in Proverbs 29:15:
The rod and reproof give wisdom; but a child left to himself causes his mother shame.
Seriously?
I cite these texts because pretending that they do not exist would be dishonest, as I want to ground my ‘ethical will’ in my tradition. However, the thrust of the approach above to education leaves me feeling cold, for such biblical sources are simply ancient and in no way reflect my thinking or perceptions. While I must, of course, allow for cultural and other historical developments, I nonetheless find this attitude towards pedagogy entirely unrelatable.
There are, of course, other Jewish texts on education, many of which focus on the study of particular religious texts and the performance of particular religious rituals at particular ages, but these are not so relevant to my thoughts on education in general.
Educate a youth according to his way; he will not swerve from it even in old age.
Now, while every child has their individual strengths and weaknesses, the Jewish sages thought it necessary to suggest four models of learners. The following source comes to us from a text known as the ‘Ethics of the Fathers’ (5:15), which is more precisely translated as ‘Chapters of the Fathers’:
There are four types among those who sit before the sages: the sponge, the funnel, the strainer and the sieve. The sponge absorbs all. The funnel takes in at one end and lets it out the other. The strainer lets out the wine and retains the sediment. The sieve lets out the coarse flour and retains the fine flour.
What I particularly appreciate about this 2nd source is that it feels to me like the early stages (200 CE) of an attempt to develop an inclusive pedagogic program that takes different learning styles into account. One may dismiss the categories as overly simplistic, perhaps, but the rabbis’ articulation of their collective concern and consideration is important.
While the Jewish tradition’s sources on education are rather a mixed bag, I find these last two very gratifying and relatable.
The sponge
In 7th grade I had an especially fantastic English teacher (Mrs. Stephanie Margolies) who metaphorically “gifted” each of her students an object from her classroom at the end of the year and explained the symbolism behind each of her personal “gifts” to us. She bequeathed upon me the large sponge that she used for washing the blackboard because, as she explained, I was endlessly asking questions during class.
The text above from the ‘Ethics of our Fathers’ has made me think about being a sponge in another way that I also find myself relating to. It’s the idea that the sponge absorbs everything – both good and bad – with no filter. Everything goes in and gets mixed around with everything else.
This trait is something that I find myself continuing to struggle with – I’m constantly absorbing bits of information from everywhere and everyone, and I’m always curious about everything at once, seeking clarification of even the most minor details. It makes focusing on any one thing for an extended period of time very difficult for me, and when I manage to focus on something, I get very annoyed with anyone or anything that distracts me (although I have gotten much better at not expressing my frustration).
I get bored of doing one thing for too long because everything else around me is interesting all the time. In fact, I have subconsciously taught myself to entirely avoid exploring certain things because I would never get anything done otherwise. This is essentially a defense mechanism for me – the choice to ignore certain aspects of the world entirely.
It was a terrible mistake for me to pursue my undergraduate degree in engineering because I was never interested in it; the world around me was much more fascinating. My graduate degree in public policy was a step in the right direction because it broadened my understanding and appreciation of how my society operated, but ending up behind a desk at the U.S. Department of Energy sent me towards depression – it was not long before I became bored out of my mind.
Even now, I’m not sure what choices I should have made as a young man, in terms of my higher education, but taking off some time before entering college would have been a wise move for me. I think that it’s not only on our parents to treat us as individuals, but also on us to actively seek to better understand ourselves. Education remains, unquestionably, a top priority for me; but it must not be embarked upon merely for the sake of diplomas and credentials, as I did.
